The reader learns to:
- become clear about what is important
- harness the energy in the 'negative' emotions
- use the stress response to address threats to his ability to love the way he wants to love and express herself the way she wants to express herself
- become aware and able to manage the hidden beliefs, attitudes, assumptions and habits that drive her behavior
- learn how and why he stops himself from doing what he wants to do
- use her selfishness to get along with others without giving up too much of herself
- integrate the parts of herself she doesn't like to keep them from biting her in the butt, and
- wrestle with the great bugaboo: sex.

Lighten Up will help you use your whole self to live the way you want to live.